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Topic: Where are all the good guys???? - Long Rant
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Southpaw
Gearhead Posts: 590
From: Lakewood, CO USA
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 07-24-2005 12:59 PM
 
Ok, I need to find a place to meet the good guys! I just ended my relationship with my boyfriend that wanted to marry me. He gave me the ultimatium of being with him or taking care of my grandfather. What an Ass, but wait it gets better! Then to make matters worse, a few days later, he said he was sorry and would like to try to work this out after everthing was done with my grandfather. So like the hopefully women, I started to think things might work out...
Here's the best part...He tells me he was cheating on me, when I told he we were done and to lose my # he said he just want to see my reaction and he was lieing.
And here's the icing on the cake...he had his web camera on last night while he bopped some bar bimbo. (I think, I did not check it out, but he sent me a message at 12am "Hey check this out".) SO, I know this guys a loser and there is no way in hell I would EVER take him back. Now it's time to move on, and find a good guy. Any ideas of where to look? I'm just tired of being Flypaper for Freaks!!!! Thanks for letting me rant, I needed to get that off my mind!
Andria
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DidgeyTrucker
Gearhead Posts: 1813
From: Greenbrier, TN USA
Registered: Oct 99
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posted 07-24-2005 01:20 PM
Move to Tennessee.Tracy
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Dave Witthoeft
Gearhead Posts: 2613
From: IL.
Registered: Dec 2000
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posted 07-24-2005 03:47 PM
Taking care of ones grandfather is a noble cause. Good for you!! Mmmm, good looking girl with a mustang,, You can allways get another boy friend...  As for good guys, Some of us are here in Il. stuck with overbering girlfriends.  LOL...  Be patient, I'm sure all the good guys will find you when your ready.. ------------------
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71 Mach 1
69 Fastback
92 F-150
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Dave Witthoeft
Gearhead Posts: 2613
From: IL.
Registered: Dec 2000
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posted 07-24-2005 03:55 PM
Allso, sometimes it's better to be without some one for ahile to clear ones head, I'm sure K.K. will be along after a while and she could probably articulate better than I ....
KK???
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Southpaw
Gearhead Posts: 590
From: Lakewood, CO USA
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 07-24-2005 06:45 PM
Dave-
Thank you for the cheering up. It just really starting hiting me today that the last 3 guys I dated were Broke, biopolar, or just an ass. I will take time to clear my head, shake out the cobwebs. Get Grandpa in a home then deal with it all. I just needed to vent...hopefully that gets it off my chest and it's easier to move on!!!! I also have to add that it's better to be alone then in a bad relationship that is either Physical, Mental, or emotionally abusive. And that was my case with Mental and Emotion abuse (I was lucky and caught it before I did not notice). I'll find someone, some day. But for now I will be happy being free of the drama! Andria
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ddenton749
unregistered
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posted 07-24-2005 10:32 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Southpaw:
...I'll find someone, some day. But for now I will be happy being free of the drama!...
Andria- I've been having the same problem here, but I keep looking. If it weren't for the little problem of 2000 miles...  ------------------
'73 Convertible, 351C 2V
'91 LX Convertible 5.0
Member: Valley Forge Mustang Club
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be."
My Site [This message has been edited by ddenton749 (edited 07-24-2005).]
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kwazykat
Moderator Posts: 8279
From: ...a wonderful place to be.... orange county... NC!!!! M&M member #92 .... a blue-oval GRRL-deluxe.....
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 07-24-2005 10:32 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Southpaw:
..... for now I will be happy being free of the drama!
there ya go!! that is the most important part grrl.... being FREE of DRAMA!
yup!
as dave said... the good guys will find you when you are ready.... until then.... and most importantly, enjoy the time you have with your grandfather.... cherish it and take great comfort in the comfort you are providing..... enjoy your time with yourself...... then move to tennessee or illinois.... i can personally attest to Tracy and DaveW being lovely lovely boys .... kk
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Dave Witthoeft
Gearhead Posts: 2613
From: IL.
Registered: Dec 2000
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posted 07-25-2005 10:23 AM
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Southpaw
Gearhead Posts: 590
From: Lakewood, CO USA
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 07-25-2005 12:10 PM
Well, I do enjoy the time I get to spend with my grandfather. But I know his days are limited. I also know that he will have to go to a home within the next few months. Everyday he gets worse and I ca not watch him die at home.
The Jerk knew about my situation from day 1. I did not lie and I did not sugar coat the situation. Partially for my own benefit, I do not like lieing to myself and thinking everything wil be all right. So that was the insult to injury.
Also the Jerk sent me a text message last night wanting to talk and that he missed me and loved me...AFTER he was a royal ass the night before...Can we say NEEDS therapy? Thank you guys and grrls for the support. It means to world to me. I don't hear it from my family, so I have to count on my friends to keep me going. Andria
BTW I might have to plan a road trip to TN or IL soon!
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ddenton749
unregistered
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posted 07-25-2005 01:09 PM
I've run into a few "winners" to. Some of these women were actually jealous of the time I spend with my kids. A lot of them were "me, me, all about me" types.Yes, being single and alone can really stink sometimes, but it's better than putting up with unnecessary drama and crap. So, like you I've been making the best of all the time I have to myself...like getting tons of work done on my Mustangs ------------------
'73 Convertible, 351C 2V
'91 LX Convertible 5.0
Member: Valley Forge Mustang Club
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be."
My Site
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SteveLaRiviere
Administrator Posts: 48752
From: Saco, Maine
Registered: May 99
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posted 07-25-2005 07:45 PM
Andria, look at it this way, the guy did you a favor by showing you his true colors when things get tough. Better to know now, than when it's too late.------------------
'70 Mustang Mach 1 351C 4V/FMX/3.25 Open
'70 Mustang Convertible 250 I6/3 speed/2.79 Open
'72 Mustang Sprint Hardtop 351C 4V/FMX/4.30 Trac Loc
'94 F-150 XL 5.8L/E4OD/3.55 Limited Slip
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Ked
Moderator Posts: 9683
From: Fayetteville, N.C.
Registered: Jul 99
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posted 07-25-2005 08:57 PM
Andria, I agree with everything that has been said here. Mainly, drop the drama. You don't need it right now. Sometimes when you look to hard you cannot find what you seek. Look inward and become comfortable with yourself (I'm sure you are already, but everyone can use some self discovery!) and one day when you lest expect it someone wonderful will come along. Hang in there, grrl!
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Southpaw
Gearhead Posts: 590
From: Lakewood, CO USA
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 07-25-2005 09:24 PM
Thank you everyone for your support!!! It's good to know I have family here! Chins up and I'm smiling away. going to get back working on Sinclair after I get parts and just have ME time!!!
Andria
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roger
Gearhead Posts: 533
From: ontario, canada
Registered: Aug 2000
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posted 01-04-2006 12:19 PM
The time spent with your grandfather, that is, `showing your priorities should make you proud, the fact that the Ex is sharing his lifes drama with you ,when you really ned his support, just shows his true selfish colors & your way better off without him.
The more you look for that right guy, the less chance you have of finding him, its some kind of law of nature!
i know, being a widower, i;ve had some of my late wifes girl friends try & set me up, thinking their doing me a favor, but, you get to the age that when you meet someone, it takes about 5 minutes to get that gut feeling that this is never going to work, i guess it comes with age.
Be proud for making your grand dad the priority.
Some of us do grow up, you know & do relalize that when we find that right girl, you better listen to her because , you girls do know more about how life works than we do!
Some of us don;t troll bars as a one night stand means absolutely nothing but an embarresment, and usually not worth the sex anyway!
I had my life partner, the more i;m "out there" the more i relaize you may only get one shot at finding that "one".
So, i;m focused on being the best Father i can be to my 4 boys & being the best provider I can be. Any single parents know this is a full time job anyway!
iIm lucky in i;m pretty well provided for, again, my wife planned for emergencies, (i would have spent every dime on cars!)
I see a single working mother that's raising a couple of young kids by herself & i can do nothing buy bow in awe!------------------
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Moneymaker
Administrator Posts: 29200
From: Lyons, IL, USA
Registered: May 99
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posted 01-17-2006 10:47 AM
Sorry but I am taken. ------------------
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68 Coop
Gearhead Posts: 5847
From: Mesquite, NV. 89027
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted 01-19-2006 08:15 AM
No advice, except get out of any situation that is always stressful, or just ain't no fun no more. You must be happy, in order to bring happiness to the people around you.------------------
William 68 Coupe
289
C4
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dude95307
Journeyman Posts: 21
From: ca
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted 01-23-2006 03:29 PM
you should of given him a ride to nowhere and drop his butt off, then leave him there.or you could of ran over him too, ok that was bad idea, you can fine better
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Mr Vids
Journeyman Posts: 83
From: Flint,MI USA
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted 01-26-2006 04:21 PM
Patience...you never know who will be around the next corner. [This message has been edited by Mr Vids (edited 01-26-2006).]
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mustangs68
Moderator Posts: 27681
From: Hampton Va MCA#39406 M&M #12 Member Mustang Club of Tidewater
Registered: May 99
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posted 02-06-2006 05:18 PM
i can personally attest to Tracy and DaveW being lovely lovely boysShe looking for a man I think..LOL Sorry guys..LOL..the muscle relaxers have kicked in and I'm not responsible for anything for the next 3 hours
Sam PS thank heavens for spell check
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John's Stang
Journeyman Posts: 9
From: Rialto,CA. U.S.A.
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted 02-17-2006 11:31 PM
Good luck, I live in California where the girls think their gods gift to men and the guys think their **** don't stink.When I was married the wife wanted me to sell my car because she was into real horses and need the money for a new one . I got the better end of the deal ,still have my mustang got rid of her. Best investment I ever did . Owning a living horse is having a car payment that NEVER goes away.Still looking for the right one myself. Think I need to look out of state.
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