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deathtoricers
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Posts: 165
From: Ft Bragg NC
Registered: Jun 2005

posted 07-20-2005 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deathtoricers   Click Here to Email deathtoricers     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ok so most of you know that I'm moving to NC to be with my hunnie Derek aka RancheroSandraGayle.

I have never lived with a boyfriend before, had male roommates but that's totally different.
Anyone here can give me some advice on how to help things work smoothly? What can I do? What can he do? Are there any do's and don'ts I should know about?

I know consideration, understanding and patience is a start, but I was hoping some of you would enlighten me with your wisdom as I am a 22 year old pup just startin out in the world *lol*

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see them buzz by
exhausts like bumble bee's
go round the next corner.. they're wrapped round a tree
ricer, dear ricer, when will you learn
you race the big blocks you're gonna get burned
two shots of NOS and what's that you say? your engine is blown.. you'll be back another day?
don't waste your time, your cash or energy.. until you get a real car you'll never touch me

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ddenton749
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posted 07-20-2005 04:15 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow!! 22 is a tough age to start as a couple. You two will change soooo much in the next ten years.

I'm thinking that being divorced twice, maybe I'm not the one to give advice, but I have learned a lot in the last twenty years. The one thing I can't stress enough is communication. You two have to talk about EVERYTHING. That also includes being a good listener too. You can't just assume the other person knows what you're thinking (angry about, etc). If you do you'll be in big trouble.

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kwazykat
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Posts: 7456
From: ...a wonderful place to be.... orange county... NC!!!! M&M member #92 .... a blue-oval GRRL-deluxe.....
Registered: Jun 99

posted 07-20-2005 06:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kwazykat   Click Here to Email kwazykat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by ddenton749:
... You two have to talk about EVERYTHING....

everything and more....

ya really have to make sure you put your expectations out there with each other so you both know where you hope to be going ..... individually and as a couple ..... all that kinda stuff like living together for the duration ..... or getting married .... who eats liver and onions .... who doesnt ..... pets or no pets ...... kids or no kids ...... sharing hously chores ..... how will you figure out which task will be done by whom .... will both of you work ..... how will you take care of finances .... yadda yadda yadda .... you know.... all that "administrative" stuff you may or may not want to discuss.....

i gotta tell ya.... if things even start to get a little edgy here.... all i have to do is remember how long i waited for rob to move to nc from iowa .... how much bs we endured from other sources before he got here [his pathetic-bittttch-ex-wife] ..... how much we were willing to do without so we could be together .... how incredibly lonely and sad i was WITHOUT him ..... which makes it so so so easy to be WITH him ...... ALL of those things help keep one's perspective especially regarding picking your battles....

respect and trust.... respect and trust.... respect and trust....

it is a tough road sometimes....
but when the right one finds you,
you dont mind a little mud in a pothole now and then......


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capri man
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From: doerun, ga.
Registered: Nov 2000

posted 07-20-2005 07:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for capri man   Click Here to Email capri man     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
each one letting the other one have his/her own space. tell him/her that you love them each and every day. do/say anything you can think of to make him/her happy every chance you get. me and ms johnnie lou have been married for 23 years and have yet to have an argument!! course i owe most of that to her cause there have been times when she should have really got on my ass!!!

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mike r
racing is real
everything else is just a game.
81 capri-302-7.25 @93mph 1/8
1.54 60ft 50 % of the fun dragracing is meeting people who will give you the shirt off their back to wipe the grease off your hands.


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kwazykat
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From: ...a wonderful place to be.... orange county... NC!!!! M&M member #92 .... a blue-oval GRRL-deluxe.....
Registered: Jun 99

posted 07-20-2005 08:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kwazykat   Click Here to Email kwazykat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by capri man:
......when she should have really got on my ass!!!

heh heh heh
ms. johnnie is an angel!!!


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ddenton749
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posted 07-20-2005 09:05 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by kwazykat:

respect and trust.... respect and trust.... respect and trust....

Yep.

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