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fastbigblockford
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From: Elizabeth, WV USA
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posted 02-08-2005 05:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fastbigblockford   Click Here to Email fastbigblockford     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am trying to be friends with my ex, but i asked her to tell me why she left me and she said its none of my business, do you gals think i have a right to be mad about that?
thanks
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Dan

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Ked
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posted 02-08-2005 08:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think you two can be friends.

Not really.

You can be cordial toward each other and smile and try to get along.

But, most friendships do not survive romantic relationships.

Maybe the best thing to do is just leave her alone for awhile.

Don't be so available to her...

That'll get her wondering what's up.

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Ked
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posted 02-08-2005 08:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh yah....I forgot to mention...don't even worry why she broke up with you.

Just consider it her loss!

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fastbigblockford
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posted 02-09-2005 06:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for fastbigblockford   Click Here to Email fastbigblockford     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ked,
i have no idea how this is gonna work out, but im gonna try to stay friends with her, we went through alot together and she knows me better than most anyone, and i can still talk to her about things i dont feel comfortable talking to anyone else about. We had a good conversation last night after the big blow-up. I guess that'll teach me to try to hold that stuff in for so long, it came out like a waterfall. I feel better now, and we are still talking, but i dont figure ill get a christmas card from the new b/f after what i said about him (darn), lol.
thanks for the advice though,
later
Dan

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68 Coop
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posted 02-09-2005 06:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 68 Coop   Click Here to Email 68 Coop     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dan, don't get pissed, but are you REALLY wanting to get her back??? Or is it that you can't stand the thought of her being with someone else. Me and my x tried this, but it turned out to be a BIG mistake, because now we HATE each other with the same passion we had in the relationship. Then to make matters worse, she tried to split me and my girlfriend up. Take a Woman's advice, and let her wonder what happened to you. Just my .20 .

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Thud
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posted 02-10-2005 07:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Thud     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I stayed friends with most of my ex's... after a year or three cool-down period.

Distance and time are good things in these situations. My dos centavos....

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ddenton749
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Let it go. It won't work being friends. Besides, what happens when you find someone new? Is the new girl going to like you being buddies with your old flame?

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kwazykat
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posted 02-13-2005 09:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kwazykat   Click Here to Email kwazykat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ked:
... Don't be so available to her...

exactly.... she broke things off but if ya keep coming around and wanting to be close to her it does a coupla things....

first it feeds her ego and gives her something to talk about with her circle of friends/family .......and it wont be good talk ..... it will be with her spin on it....

secondly it will eventually accomplish a big piss-off between the two of you because you will become frustrated beyond belief and she will become annoyed beyond belief and ~bam~ the two will collide ......

my lil bit of input is that you let it go .... mourn and come to terms with the situation ..... then move forward instead of back!


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70boss302
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posted 02-13-2005 10:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 70boss302   Click Here to Email 70boss302     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you really want to stay her friend then the first thing you have to do is give her the space she needs to work things out in her own mind. If after all that she still feels a connection to you, she will initiate contact with you and only then can you move forward. It is very hard to let go of a loved one, but it will come back on it's own if it was ever truly yours to begin with. Good luck and keep yourself busy for the next few weeks. Don't go where she might be either or to the places you took her..........it will only bring back more memories and make things harder for you.

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Ponygirl67
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posted 02-17-2005 05:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ponygirl67   Click Here to Email Ponygirl67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Another thing to think about, you feel like she is the only one that understands you, but that is just because the breakup is fresh...give it time and space and when you do meet someone new you can put all your energy into the new relationship, take time out now to heal and find out who you are on your own...good luck and take care....

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