Just mailing from my folks home approx 40 miles away from my own home. Just moved back after my partner of 6 years whom I love with all my heart broke up with me.

Having real hard time at moment. We never fought had heaps in common and were so perfect together. He said he needs time to sort his head out as he does not know what he wants anymore. He is not a b*stard and I don't hate him, but how do you get through those need to call him and hear his voice moments????

Any advice?
Sorry just had to vent........
Yours depressively..

Melanie

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UK Stang-Grrrrrl!!!
1967 Candy Apple Mustang Coupe. (Sally67)
1986 Chevy Blazer S10

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Originally posted by sally67:
He said he needs time to sort his head out as he does not know what he wants anymore.

Melanie

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melanie, i dont want to get you down any more than you already are or sound negitive. but that usually means he has someone else and he aint got the cahoonas to tell you the truth!! his head hasnt changed since the day you met him. but something in his life has. if you give in now, it will only get worse down the road!! just my opinion, i could be wrong!! there are to many nice guys out there that would love to have a "mustang grrl"
see guys, i do have a sensitive side!!

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mike r
racing is real
everything else is just a game.
81 capri-7.51 @89mph 1/8
1.54 60 ft.

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Originally posted by capri man:
that usually means he has someone else and he aint got the cahoonas to tell you the truth!!

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As much as I appreciate your viewpoint and thanks for the supportive words, I don't believe that is the case.

His last long term partner was scr*win' someone for the most part of their relationship. I know how strongly he feels about this and i have given him many opportunities to come clean. We made a pact if someone else ever came along we would be honest. So on this basis (maybe foolishly) I believe him.
There are so many external influences that have caused him to get like this, which I won't bore you with, I just hope with or without me he gets himself sorted out.

Thanks though!

Melanie

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Originally posted by adragon8u:
I know I'm still just a newbie here but my wishes go out to you to on this. At least you have some good friends here at M&M to help through this time. Hang in there girl.

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mike r
racing is real
everything else is just a game.
81 capri-7.51 @89mph 1/8
1.54 60 ft.

If he needs space, give it to him. Let him know you can live your life without him. I know how incredibily hard it can be. I am facing a similar situation as well, but it has been a lot longer than 6 yrs and a we have two kids involved. I'm not sure it gets easier but you get tougher.

Feel free to add me to your email list. I would be glad to listen objectively. And I dont believe every one out there is "scr*wing someone else". Sometimes, we just wake up and find that we want something different from our lives, or we wake up and realize we dont know what we want. Life is tough. Marriage and relationships are even tougher. Hang in there girl..

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Originally posted by Ken&Shell:

Feel free to add me to your email list. I would be glad to listen objectively.

Shell

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Thanks a lot Shell I appreciate that. I know we are lucky that Kids are not involved, only me to worry about and I know you are right. Still hard though when you believed deep in your heart this was the one up until the second he said the bad news.

Thanks a bunch, will keep in touch. Hope your situation gets sorted too, the same sentiment heads your way too. I may not post often but I check in a lot.

I've never had a door closed on me that I wasn't happy about later on, once I had a more clear perspective.

I wish you happiness!

Fate has a very funny and cruel way of working us through it. There is a reason for everything - good and bad - that happens to us. Hold on to all the good things you had, and grow from the negative.

And most important thing to know: We are here for ya!

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Beth
Head Cheerleader for Moneymaker Racing!

So Thanks again and I will try to post a much chirpier post next time!

Thanks again.
Melanie

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UK Stang-Grrrrrl!!!
1967 Candy Apple Mustang Coupe. (Sally67)
1986 Chevy Blazer S10

Hang in there, GRRL! I agree with Shell...the less available you are to him and the more elusive the more he will realize what he let get away.

Then, when he does make that realization, it will totally have to be up to you as to whether or not you want to take him back.

But, you gotta remember it will always have that "what if he does it again" cloud hangin' around.

So, you gotta decide in your heart if it's worth the heartache to go through again.

Know you have friends here.

Let us know how everything turns out.

As others have said, running back or trying to win him over again isn't usually the best solution. It can just end up postponing the inevitible. I went back/took back my ex on more than one occasion, but it never really solved anything or got rid of the underlying problems and/or reservations in the relationship. That's been my experience, for what it's worth.

For me, the final meltdown of my previous marriage has led to me finding a wonderful woman who I love with all my heart, and truly believe that I will grow old with her by my side. I am happier than I've ever been in my life, and have an open and honest relationship like I've nver experienced before... all because of a failed relationship.

It may seem dark and grey right now Mel, but sunny skies are just around the corner!! Things WILL get better, and time does heal all wounds. Lean on your friends and family when you need, but also pick yourself up and get out there. It's a big world... you never know what you're going to find!!

Lots of love,
Ian

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Originally posted by sally67:
Yours depressively....

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i know it sucks when these things happen.....

but like everyone has said
things happen for a reason
and you WILL be all-better
it just takes a little while to get through it......

my biggest two-cents:
ALLOW yourself to wallow in the pain for a little while.... dont ignore the hurt.... and when you are tired of being full of self-imposed-pity ..... pull yourself up and get back in touch with who YOU are .... you without the other person..... you alone.... you with all the sweet time in the world to do what YOU want when YOU want to at YOUR convenience!!!!! yah!! make it a great thing.....

being alone does not mean you have to be a lonely grrl!!!!! being alone gives you a lot of perspective to make a decision about who you want to invite into your space.....

breathe
breathe
breathe

embrace
embrace
embrace

my next two-cents:
start writing your heart feelings at nite before sleep time .... get the words out of your head and on to some paper ..... it is great therapy .....

you are a fantastic person
now.... GO ENJOY YOURSELF.......

email me anytime grrlfrinn
much love across the water
kk

Moving on with my life and looking forward to my holiday to Florida in May.

Taking each day at a time......
Thanks again!

xxx Big Hugs xxx

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UK Stang-Grrrrrl!!!
1967 Candy Apple Mustang Coupe. (Sally67)
1986 Chevy Blazer S10

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mike r
racing is real
everything else is just a game.
81 capri-7.51 @89mph 1/8
1.54 60 ft.

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Originally posted by capri man:
billy mac and me might just meet you down there for a cup of coffee, or a dr pepper for billy!! where in fl do you go??

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We are going to Madeira Beach nr St Johns Pass. It would be nice to meet any fellow M&Mers! I am going with my family. Parents and sister. We get on really well so should be good fun. Dad and I hope to get out to some night racing. Never been to a night drag race, will be good.

Melanie

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UK Stang-Grrrrrl!!!
1967 Candy Apple Mustang Coupe. (Sally67)
1986 Chevy Blazer S10

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'67 Prowler Purple Mustang Coupe and new addition.....
'89 5.0 LX
The Mustang Stable
Upper Island Mustangs and Fords

First, I am sorry to hear of your break up, as 6 years is somewhat of a longer term commitment, and makes it pretty rough to handle.

Second, take it as a learning experience...I went through the same thing after dating a girl for 6 years in my younger days of 18-24, and when we broke up it was somewhat of an empty/change feeling. Time will change that feeling.

The good thing about it was that I ended up meeting the most incredible, wonderful, kind hearted girl, that I couldn't believe was true...AND SHE LOVES MUSTANGS!!! Yep...married her 27 years ago and still going strong!!!