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jsracingbbf
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posted 02-15-2003 01:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jsracingbbf   Click Here to Email jsracingbbf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Happy Valentines Day Grrls! Ok so its 20 minutes late hey Imma guy so I'm late 4 years ago today (Valentines Day) I told my wife Vikki to pick up some papers I needed at the lawyers office. Waiting for her there in his office was a dozen roses. She got there and I pulled up after she went in. We closed on our house I bought her that day. We already looked at it but she didn't know what was going on, since we looked at several. Today she told me I'm set for life on not having to worry about Valentine's presents, because of the gift that one year.

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kwazykat
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posted 02-15-2003 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kwazykat   Click Here to Email kwazykat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

yer a romantic guy....
thats sooooo very nice.......

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Ked
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posted 02-16-2003 01:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
only lucky grrl's get romance on valentines day.

i'm not a lucky grrl.

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68F100
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posted 02-16-2003 01:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 68F100   Click Here to Email 68F100     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry to hear Kedra. Don't that man of yours know what he's got??

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Ken&Shell
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posted 02-16-2003 07:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ken&Shell   Click Here to Email Ken&Shell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It never ceases to amaze me how much we have in common Ked. I asked Kenny earlier this week if we were gonna go out to eat for Valentines and he said no. it's on a friday and everything will be packed. Well Thursday we met for lunch and our waitress was his best friends wifey. She asked if we wanted to go out with them for valentines. And he was like..Sure.. I wanted to hit him. Right there in the restaurant. It made it the 2nd day of that week I refused to even speak to him. Couldnt take me out but oh heck yeah let's go out with my friend. I coulda screamed. So needless to say I got nothing. not a card, not a dinner, not a flower, not a piece of chocolate. same as you

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BarrysGrrl
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posted 02-16-2003 08:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BarrysGrrl   Click Here to Email BarrysGrrl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What's up with some of these guys!?!?!?

I can't believe how many guys blow off this holiday. My god, you can buy flowers in GAS STATIONS, you don't even have to go out of your way to bring your lady a little joy! I don't mean any offense by this, but why do you tolerate it? I sure wouldn't.

Alex and I just had a discussion about this as I wavered whether to write this or not, and he said something very poignant:
"It's not that I like Valentine's. I do what I do because I know it's important to you. And you don't EXPECT the gifts, the flowers, but you DESERVE them, and it's a good reason to give them to you."

I am curious, did you grrls give your guys anything? Alex was also showered with cards and gifts from me. And the dogs, too. I see Valentine's as going both ways, guys buy for grrls, grrls for their guys. Am I off base here?

I am not judging anyone, just surprised that two very strong women have had a very painful experience this week and haven't let their guys know how much it hurts. For what it's worth, I wish this holiday would go away, because I believe it causes 10 times more pain for many then it causes pleasure for the few who truly get to enjoy it. Guilty of being a part of the latter group, but I still feel for those left out.

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Beth
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ccode67
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posted 02-17-2003 08:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ccode67   Click Here to Email ccode67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I even gave my wife a small gift for Valentines, some of you may remember some posts a while back about the impending doom of my marriage, well that has NOT changed, I did let my daughter pick out he card for me, I just couldn't do it, too much mushy stuff that I don't feel right now. Heck, if I can do it, you other guys can too. Sorry for you grrls who were disappointed.

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SteveLaRiviere
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posted 02-17-2003 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SteveLaRiviere   Click Here to Email SteveLaRiviere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What kind of a bonehead passes up a chance to get brownie points?

To me, Valentine's Day is like Christmas, I couldn't care less if we never had another one. But every once in a while a guy has to realize they are not the only person in the world and that their lady {or 'significant other' if they are a gm guy} needs a little token of affection just to feel like she isn't part of the furniture.

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jsracingbbf
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posted 02-17-2003 07:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jsracingbbf   Click Here to Email jsracingbbf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I took Vikki out to eat Steak and Shrimp and I bought her a card and some candles from this candle shop she adores. I spent $30.oo bucks tops. Hey I figure that's no biggie since I ordered a driveshaft ($400.00) and shocks ($350.00) last week... now everybodies happy

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jsracingbbf
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posted 02-17-2003 07:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jsracingbbf   Click Here to Email jsracingbbf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by jsracingbbf:
I took Vikki out to eat Steak and Shrimp and I bought her a card and some candles from this candle shop she adores. I spent $30.oo bucks tops. Hey I figure that's no biggie since I ordered a driveshaft ($400.00) and shocks ($350.00) last week... now everybodies happy


Ok $50.00 if you count the candle but WAY worth it to keep the peace. Sorry Ked and Shell, Send them to the DAWG HOUSE. Hey after a night or two in there things will start to look great inside!

My way of thinking is ALL GRRLS are special and aren't really that much trouble. I am so glad my daughter isn't a boy. LOL I tell her BOYS are BAD! I know this because I am one. I can tell what they are thinkin' I got Lynsey ballons for V-day, sent them to her school. Of course this does alot to impress Mom too.
I got some Sweet tarts and a card. I made out like it was a million bucks

Hey I'm hung in there what can I say?

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Jerry
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Ken&Shell
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posted 02-20-2003 04:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ken&Shell   Click Here to Email Ken&Shell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, Beth you are right. I have asked myself a 1000 times why I tolerate some of the things I do. And I appreciate your view point on it. There are a lot of things in my marriage that could use some improvements and in the big picture of it all, valentines day is not one of the bigger issues for me. But I kinda look at it like this right now, I am making short term sacrifices for what I hope are long term gains. My life is not terrible, but my personal relationship with him could be 100 times better. But I stay and tolerate a lot of it because of my kids. I growed up as a child of divorce and I hated it and deplored it and am doing everything in my power to see that my boys dont go thru the misery I did. But I am sure it will reach a point in my life where I will be tired of settling for what I get and find someone to treat me the way I want to be treated. And there will also be a point, where my children arent as small as they are and so dependent upon me. To me, keeping our home together for them to grow up without all the distress I had is what I hope is a long term gain.

It's very difficult for me to put in to words the indecision I have over this. And Stuart stating he couldnt pick out a card because of the impending doom in his marriage so he let his daughter pick one out definately hit home with me. Sometimes I wanna scream at my hubby and say.. Wake up before it's too late. Then another part of me tells me it's probably already past that. And I keep telling myself, what are they learning if they dont see the love and affection they should see in a marriage. SO it's very much becoming a no win situation to me.

And believe me, he knew how mad I was about the dinner incident. But it didnt seem to have much effect on his behavior. And we ended up doing nothing. We did not go out with his friend and wifey. I refused to go. I cooked dinner and spent time with my boys and acted like he didnt exist. And I used to go all out buying him things for valentines and his birthday and it did Nothing to improve what I got so I quit. Sometimes I feel like I am on this fast spinning merry go round. I so badly wanna jump off but I know it's gonna hurt like hell when I hit the ground.

Just this grrl's perspective.

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SteveLaRiviere
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posted 02-20-2003 04:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SteveLaRiviere   Click Here to Email SteveLaRiviere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have you tried counseling? Sometimes an impartial third party really helps if both parties are open to it. A good counselor can get communication started, and that makes the difference in keeping a marriage going or having it die.

I was divorced before. I married real young the first time, 19, and I learned all the mistakes with that one. Boy did I learn!

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Just Strokin
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posted 02-20-2003 07:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Just Strokin   Click Here to Email Just Strokin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Counseling only works if both parties are willing to meet, invest the time and effort to resolve the differences.

Am I an expert on this? No, but I feel like it at times after being divorce 4 times. I have tried to learn something new about myself each time and to change the things I could for I can change me, but no one else can change because I want them to change.

Shell, may I ask your ages?

I have a feeling that I understand your plight. I felt in some of the past marriages that I was the only one giving (in) and the others weren't. This may have been an illusion but even today, I feel it is the truth and I am not the same person I was when I divorced each time for I have made changes in me.

Enough of my rambling....Just remember....if both feel it is worth saving, save the marriage but it is going to take two and one party can't do all the changing nor giving (in)....If it isn't worth saving, then you have no choice...for I don't believe in keeping it going just for the kids...my kids turned out okay....and in the end, both came to live with me...they know...they feel things...they aren't unaware as you hope they might be.

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Larry

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Ponygirl67
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posted 02-20-2003 10:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ponygirl67   Click Here to Email Ponygirl67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oki, I don't usually get this personal on the forum, but I didn't get anything for Valentines day either, we went out for dinner two nights before hand and he casually threw out at me, happy valentines day, on the actual day, he called and said he would be home and his buddy was coming over too.....great..........so I said, any plans for dinner????? He says, well you could make spagetti, that would be ok.......I was speechless, and trust me that is not an easy thing to accomplish. So I made dinner and we had a romantic night with his freind Dan there...... I have every single year bought him a card and something little as a gift,and made effort to be totally sexy and ready to show him how much I love him.... and this year we are going thru some pretty tough times as a couple, I honestly knew he would not make any effort, so neither did I. I write Valentines day off so I won't be disappointed anymore.....kinda makes me sad...

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BarrysGrrl
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posted 02-20-2003 10:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BarrysGrrl   Click Here to Email BarrysGrrl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Man, this is totally not what I wanted to happen. And why I put serious consideration in before I put fingers to keyboard. But if it makes someone really take a step back and look at the big picture, then maybe all this pain can be seen for what it is: a symptom of some issues in a relationship.

I will never tell anyone what to do in their love life, and I am sorry if I made anyone feel defensive of their relationship. I was just saying what I would tolerate and not . . . easy for me to say since I know I will never have those issues in my relationship with Alex.

But it was not that long ago that I was in a very thankless and unromantic relationship. I could have stayed, tolerated, but I didn't. I also didn't have as much invested in it as many of you. So for me to leave, there were many many less strings to untangle. It was painful, not very much fun, but short term pain for long term gain. I am so exstatically happy now, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship that was based on "tolerating" one another. But I had been, so you have my complete understanding.

Counseling is the best way to start our towards healing. I wish you all the very best no matter what decision you make. We only get one shot at this ride called life, and we have to make the best of it~ :-)

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Beth
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ccode67
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posted 02-21-2003 10:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ccode67   Click Here to Email ccode67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hate to see you grrls sad, I'm sorry this post turned this way too.

When my daughter picked out the card, I let her pick a silly one, made it a game for her to get the goofiest one.

My marriage started out good, until the tenth year anyway, the last 4 have been hell, we still get along with each other, but pretty much have our own interests and activities. I guess that keeps us from spending too much time together. There comes a time when you have to lead your own life and let the rest take care of itself.

My current mindset is to do everything I can to be sure my daughter is as happy as possible, she means more to me than anything.
Even more than my own happiness.


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Just Strokin
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posted 02-21-2003 11:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Just Strokin   Click Here to Email Just Strokin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Stuart.....

If you are unhappy in your situation....sit down and talk with your daughter and ask her what you should do...it sure sounds like you have the relationship with her like I do with my kids....she knows more than you might think...and she wants you to be happy as you do also for her...

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Larry

No fast Fords at this time but one fine cruising 96 F350 CC DRW Power Strokin diesel.
And one rusty 64 Fairlane nick-named the Rust Bucket....And sometimes called the Money Pit...

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Ken&Shell
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posted 02-21-2003 12:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ken&Shell   Click Here to Email Ken&Shell     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Beth, please dont feel bad about your post on my part. There is little anyone could say to me that I havent said to myself a 100 times. And you have no idea how largely it looms in my mind that this is my only shot at life. I am 33 and he is 36. We've been doing this thing for 16 yrs now since I was a jr in high school. And counseling sounds like a great idea, but when he fails to admit there is any problem in our life,hence, you see the problem.

And while giving him something early in the morning to ensure I get something doesnt sit well with me. I want to receive a gift because someone gives a damn about me enough to pick up something. And I could care less if it was just a pack of 25 cent gum. I would even settle for a huge hug and someone to say, You know I really do love you and want you in my life. I really feel there is nothing more I can do. I have given and given til I am sick of it. I'm tired of doing everything in this world for someone who acts like they expect it from me.

Well, I really didnt mean to get this personal either. This isnt something that happened over night. It has been headed down this path for many years now. And those who know me personally know that I have struggled immensely with it. And I know I have the power to change it, but there's a part of me that feels it's selfish to want out. And I struggle daily with it, sometimes down deep, and sometimes right on top of the surface. And Beth, Cherish that relationship that you have with Alex. Love is a two way street and takes two committed people. And there's a world full of people that just dont get that concept. I for one am hoping that I will one day have that as well.


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ccode67
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posted 02-21-2003 12:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ccode67   Click Here to Email ccode67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Shell, looks like we have more in common than just M&M, unfortunately thats not a good thing.

As far as counseling goes, when one of the people is in denial about the situation and isn't truthful with themselves or the counselor it is a waste of time. Been there and done that.

Good luck to you.

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Just Strokin
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posted 02-21-2003 12:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Just Strokin   Click Here to Email Just Strokin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Selfish to want out?

What is wrong with being selfish for yourself at times?

What is wrong with wanting to be pleased, whether by yourself and/or by another?

I see nothing wrong with these as long at it doesn't go to the other extreme.

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Larry

No fast Fords at this time but one fine cruising 96 F350 CC DRW Power Strokin diesel.
And one rusty 64 Fairlane nick-named the Rust Bucket....And sometimes called the Money Pit...

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posted 02-21-2003 11:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jsracingbbf   Click Here to Email jsracingbbf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Golly, I didn't mean to start all this pain. I just wanted to wish the Grrls happy Valentines day. Sorry. I guess I was raised different. I think guys should treat their grrls like a princess. I know I don't always do that but I do occasionally. I know that my sweety puts up with WAY more stuff than I do from her. While she was in surgery for 11 hrs with the brain tumor it kinda makes you think. Doing with out her would be like cutting off my arm, just can't concieve it. Although I'm no expert, I do think Love is about Sacrifice. I understand where your coming from Larry. Eventually you get tired of being the one that always sacrifices. I am lucky My wife makes ALOT of sacrifices, and because she does I treat her as well as I know how. I will say this one thing I heard from our pulpit a long time back. It's kind of corny but here goes, The family that prays together stays together. I sincerely hope things work out. Like I said before ALL Grrls are specail, even the ones that can't tell a 9/16th from a 1/2 in open end. They should be loved and appreciated. God's gift to Adam was EVE. It was meant to be this way. Guys never take her for granted because one day she might not be there. I almost lost my grrl and it makes you think.

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posted 02-22-2003 09:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BarrysGrrl   Click Here to Email BarrysGrrl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I look at it this way: it's all mental.

Our brain makes us the most powerful living creature on this planet and separates us from the animals. Love is not just a feeling, an emotion, but when we are in relationships for as long as many of us have been in, it's also a decided upon effort we have taken on day after day.

You are all in relationships you choose to be in. You choose to stay or go. Some could argue that you can choose whether you are happy or miserable (I say sometimes you have no control over your happiness). Whether you stay or go is utimately a decision. With reasons none of us could ever understand. AND I RESPECT EVERYONE FOR MAKING WHATEVER CHOICE THEY MAKE! You have your own life to live, your own level of happiness to satisfy, and your own God to kneel in front of at the end and say "Well, I did the best I could."

God bless you all in your relationships, happy or otherwise. It's your life, it's your call.

But know this (the most important part of this whole rambling) no matter what, your M&M family will be here for you!!!!!!! With open arms and tons of love and support!!

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Beth
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posted 02-22-2003 02:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by SteveLaRiviere:
Have you tried counseling? Sometimes an impartial third party really helps if both parties are open to it.

Oh yeah....right...and guess who is always expected to make all the changes????

PHAAAA!

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hehehe, keep digging that hole steve!!! lol

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posted 02-22-2003 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Just Strokin   Click Here to Email Just Strokin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
You are all in relationships you choose to be in. You choose to stay or go. Some could argue that you can choose whether you are happy or miserable(I say sometimes you have no control over your happiness).

BarrysGrrl

I take exception to this as I have gotten older. I use to think that others could make me happy but I have since learned differently. I must first be satisfied with myself and maybe happy too, before others can help me be happier. It took me a number of years and as you can read above, a number of marriages to find this out.

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Larry

No fast Fords at this time but one fine cruising 96 F350 CC DRW Power Strokin diesel.
And one rusty 64 Fairlane nick-named the Rust Bucket....And sometimes called the Money Pit...

The sounds of a brain dropping into gear.....
"Buzzzzzz.......Click"

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posted 02-25-2003 07:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mustang Tally   Click Here to Email Mustang Tally     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Just Strokin:
Stuart.....

If you are unhappy in your situation....sit down and talk with your daughter and ask her what you should do......


No! No! No! This is not the route to take...You shouldn't put that weight on your children's shoulders..No matter what their ages...

You are the only one who knows what you can bear...Make your own decisions then discuss with your children

You can easily be swayed by outside opinions, some of which are good but many are bad...and later...you can blame ONLY YOURSELF for your decision, be it good or bad...

Tally - Your Personal Psychologist
Phone BR-549

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quote:
Originally posted by Mustang Tally:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Just Strokin:
[b]Stuart.....

If you are unhappy in your situation....sit down and talk with your daughter and ask her what you should do......


No! No! No! This is not the route to take...You shouldn't put that weight on your children's shoulders..No matter what their ages...

You are the only one who knows what you can bear...Make your own decisions then discuss with your children

You can easily be swayed by outside opinions, some of which are good but many are bad...and later...you can blame ONLY YOURSELF for your decision, be it good or bad...

Tally - Your Personal Psychologist
Phone BR-549

[This message has been edited by Mustang Tally (edited 02-25-2003).][/B][/QUOTE]

I agree with you Tally, by the way, I tried to call my personal psychologist and all I got was a guy from Hee Haw. I guess BR-549 must be a popular #.

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Just Strokin
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From: Tuscaloosa, Alabama
Registered: Dec 2001

posted 02-25-2003 09:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Just Strokin   Click Here to Email Just Strokin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
CCode,

I proably didn't say that right, but I do believe that she should have an input into what you do. She has to feel comfortable also for she will have guilt feelings if you don't talk to her. It was years before my daughter finally told me she felt she was part of the cause in my div, which could have been cleared up by talking with her.

But then again, these are my thoughts just as your thoughts say not to talk with her.

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Mustang Tally
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From: Winston Salem, NC
Registered: May 2000

posted 03-04-2003 04:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mustang Tally   Click Here to Email Mustang Tally     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Now, Hon, I didn't mean for him to not talk to her at all...He certainly needs to let her know how he feels, but what I meant was to not ask her what to do...Only he can decide that...

So I hope you still love me...I wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings for anything..


Well, maybe for an all expense paid trip to Hawaii or Tahiti or something like that !!

[This message has been edited by Mustang Tally (edited 03-04-2003).]

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GeerWerkz
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From: Snohomish, WA, USA
Registered: Mar 2003

posted 03-05-2003 01:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeerWerkz   Click Here to Email GeerWerkz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I got my lovely wife a 67 Mustang and Godiva chocolates for Valentines day 2000, she gave a nice hallmark card. So I ate the chocolates

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rm302 boss
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Posts: 680
From: Austin Texas
Registered: Dec 2002

posted 03-26-2003 10:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rm302 boss   Click Here to Email rm302 boss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am not married yet (Aug) but i have all ways done some thing special on the 14th.. This year i got Laura a doz red roses and a Day at the spa... If you guys have never done this for your wife i highly recommend it.. She will come back as a completely different person. well.. er.. same person but, very relaxed and will just float around the room... Its generally a day of being waited on hand and foot... Pamperd to an extreme... I ordered like $900.00 bucks in car parts the next day and she was fine with that..
HINT... HINT....
I hope for the best for all of you and hope you find happiness.. Or it finds you...
Rene

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1970 Boss 302
1990 Taurus SHO
1985 Mustang GT 351W
1995 Land rover Disco
1980 Triumph Spitfire (auto-X car)

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Ponygirl67
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Posts: 1089
From: Vancouver Island, Canada
Registered: Nov 2001

posted 03-26-2003 11:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ponygirl67   Click Here to Email Ponygirl67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by rm302 boss:
I am not married yet (Aug) but i have all ways done some thing special on the 14th.. This year i got Laura a doz red roses and a Day at the spa... If you guys have never done this for your wife i highly recommend it.. She will come back as a completely different person. well.. er.. same person but, very relaxed and will just float around the room... Its generally a day of being waited on hand and foot... Pamperd to an extreme... I ordered like $900.00 bucks in car parts the next day and she was fine with that..
HINT... HINT....
I hope for the best for all of you and hope you find happiness.. Or it finds you...
Rene


Oh my god!!!! If a guy did that for me I would let him order 900 bucks worth of tools too.......what a great guy you are!!!!

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WHAT IF THE HOKEY POKEY IS WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT?

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rm302 boss
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From: Austin Texas
Registered: Dec 2002

posted 03-27-2003 08:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for rm302 boss   Click Here to Email rm302 boss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well over the years (All 3 of them) She has put up with a lot! all the guys get together and go wrench on some ones car, the swap meets, junk yard runs ( which she comes to).. She deserves a good day of pampering which i have no clue how to do that.. (id probably end up hurting her or really pissing her off so, leave that to the pros..
Rene

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