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70 Pony
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From: Glenmoore, PA, USA
Registered: Jan 2000

posted 07-28-2002 04:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 70 Pony   Click Here to Email 70 Pony     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Y'all know I've been a widower for a little over 4 years. I've dated svereal ladies, had my share of relationships, but I notice one thing....
As one of these girls so aptly put it...
"Eddie, single people our age are all walking wounded."..that's why I'm lost.
The women I have dated were all divorced at least once...done "wrong" by some guy, and they seem to be expecting the same from me..
Now I'm no saint...but I came out of a loving, wonderful marriage to the best woman on earth.
I have no bitterness..so I guess I am naieve (spelling??) enough to think that, if you tell the truth, treat people right, don't play head games...things should just flow naturally. But I sense a "Paranoia"...like.."This guy is nice, when is he going to Screw me over ?? or Hurt me." etc etc...
Where I feel like...if I like her...I'm going to treat her right..and if things don't work out...just be truthful..and I expect the same in return..
Sure there may be a little "Heart Break", but that's life...It's happened to me and everybody else...
I can understand the feeling...if my marriage broke up under some lousy conditions and I got raked over the coals, I'd be paranoid too, I guess....
It's just that I forget that most "parting of the ways" have a bitterness...where mine just had the ultimate sadness...
Jeannette has a large piece of my heart for ever and ever, but there is room for a special someone.....and please don't think I compare these girls to Jeannette....or talk about her endlessly......
But I do tell them I had a wonderful marriage, to a wonderful girl, and I miss having that friend, lover, companion, buddy in my life...whether it be her (obviously) or someone else.
It's kind of sad, that in what is more than "Mid Life"...people can't open their hearts up a little, before it is too late...
JUST THINKING OUT LOUD ......Thanks for listening...and by the way...this has nothing to do what is going on in my life now...I'm "seeing" 2 great girls...but they have that suspicion...I can just tell they are afraid to believe who I really am.

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EDDIE D
Resto Mod '70 Sport Roof
Arrest Me Red
'02 GT, Torch Red
'66 Coupe Project, "Mustang Marauder.
"If I knew I would have lived this long, I would have taken better care of myself !"
"U.S. Marines; First to go. Last to know !"

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Ked
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From: Hot Hills o' Sand, N.C.
Registered: Jul 99

posted 07-29-2002 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
EddieD,
A love like yours and Jeanette's is rare.....very rare....

And being single and/or divorced don't have a thing to do with being disappointed or hurt.......

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Mustang Tally
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From: Winston Salem, NC
Registered: May 2000

posted 07-30-2002 04:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mustang Tally   Click Here to Email Mustang Tally     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Eddie, go find you a nice grrl who goes to church; one who would understand real love...and understands how wonderful a person you are...one who would not be jealous of love for a former wife or girlfriend...

Yeah, they are hard to find, but somewhere, out there, is THE one just waiting to meet you...Kinda like that job we've looked for that seems to elude us...when suddenly, we land it!

Most grrls do not want to get so much information about your past so soon...Wait til you feel that "she" is the one...and before you get too involved have the conversation with her then...

Sorry, Eddie D, I guess it's this Southern Heat Wave!!

Good Luck to you...Tally


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70 Pony
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From: Glenmoore, PA, USA
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posted 07-31-2002 12:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 70 Pony   Click Here to Email 70 Pony     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Guess I was thinking out loud...and scared to admit I was spoiled...not by some "Whatever you say Honey" girl...oh no that was not Jeannette...but by someone so honest, up front and caring....
Oh you (I) couldn't walk all over her..she was just who she was..
How refreshing...and maybe rare...I hope not.
Like my poem said..."Whoever wrote those words, it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all."
Obviously never knew Jeannette...I'm sorry I had the taste of her greatness...makes everything else taste like leftovers....

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EDDIE D
Resto Mod '70 Sport Roof
Arrest Me Red
'02 GT, Torch Red
'66 Coupe Project, "Mustang Marauder.
"If I knew I would have lived this long, I would have taken better care of myself !"
"U.S. Marines; First to go. Last to know !"

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Ponygirl67
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From: Vancouver Island, Canada
Registered: Nov 2001

posted 08-01-2002 12:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ponygirl67   Click Here to Email Ponygirl67     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
AMEN Eddy..........AMEN............all you can do my friend is hope you have a taste of the same joy again that you had with your beautiful Jeannette.........but if you don't, you are still so lucky to ever have had it at all, as so many people never, ever do.....you are a wonderful man, and if there is ever anyone that is gonna get lucky enough to have that much joy twice, I know it is you my friend...........just enjoy the beauty of each day and the great company you keep with the folks that you love.......

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The Mustang Stable
Vancouver Island Mustang Assosiation

WHAT IF THE HOKEY POKEY IS WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT?

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capri man
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From: doerun, ga.
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posted 08-01-2002 10:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for capri man   Click Here to Email capri man     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you can laugh, but this worked for me. what tally said about church reminded me.
find a nice old lady that likes you. (that was the hard part for me!!) go to church with her on sunday. i will almost guarentee that a nice single lady will invite you home for "LUNCH" the first time!! trashy aint it, but a guys gotta do what a guys gotta do!

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mike r
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everything else is just a game.
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70 Pony
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posted 08-03-2002 06:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 70 Pony   Click Here to Email 70 Pony     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Mike...BUT...2 problems.......
#1 Not looking for a "Nice Old Lady"...
#2 I don't go to church......

Like I said...I'm not on a safari here...just kinda thinking outloud..plus anY grrlll who misses their shot at Eddie D...
WELL THAT IS HER LOSS !!!!!!!

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EDDIE D
Resto Mod '70 Sport Roof
Arrest Me Red
'02 GT, Torch Red
'66 Coupe Project, "Mustang Marauder.
"If I knew I would have lived this long, I would have taken better care of myself !"
"U.S. Marines; First to go. Last to know !"

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Ked
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From: Hot Hills o' Sand, N.C.
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posted 08-04-2002 12:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ked   Click Here to Email Ked     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you're right about that, EddieD!!

Kinda my thoughts on the matter also ~

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capri man
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From: doerun, ga.
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posted 08-04-2002 01:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for capri man   Click Here to Email capri man     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by 70 Pony:
Thanks Mike...BUT...2 problems.......
#1 Not looking for a "Nice Old Lady"...




maybe i worded that wrong. i didnt mean old lady as in wife, girlfriend etc. i dont use that term. i meant a real "old" woman. she knows all the younger singles and they love to play cupid. hehehe

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mike r
racing is real
everything else is just a game.
81 capri-7.56 @88mph 1/8
1.56 60 ft.
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Southpaw
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From: Aurora, CO USA
Registered: Jun 99

posted 09-24-2002 10:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Southpaw   Click Here to Email Southpaw     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Eddie-

Give it time! With time someone will learn how special you are and try not to confuse you with the past. When you've been hurt and burned so many times, it's hard to change your fear to love, until it's proven.

Take this from a bitter angry GRRL right now! I just try to remember that I will make someone a good "Other Half", some day. And I try to think that Sinclair is not gone, just safe.

Andria

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