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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
From: Spokane ,WA USA
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted 04-11-2005 10:55 PM
   
Well I found out she sold all my tools and she was court ordered not to she was also ordered twice to return them to me, and she did not. Well if any of you remember I was building a 393 stroker forged JE pistons victor jr heads harland sharp rockers 4340 H beam rods scat,scat crank,retro roller cam 540 lift. aluminum rad & waterpump. 7gt miloden front sump. holley 750 vac sec. ect ect. anyways its all gone! Gees you think you know someone and then this crap... 15 years with this one. I think I am going to concentate on building a killer Stang.
sorry to rant. Just needed to vent as this will help me go into court with an oh well It can and will someday all be replaced.. Thanks for listening,
Bruce Williams
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John Holloway
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From: Romeoville Illinois
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posted 04-11-2005 11:06 PM
Sorry to hear that Bruce! 10yrs ago when I got Divorced as soon as my Ex. told me She wanted out I sold the Entire Contents of my Garage to my Brother for $100.00,Even though She said she wasent going to touch anything in the Garage. When Someone is in that state of mind ...You cant trust anything they say or Do!
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
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posted 04-11-2005 11:16 PM
Yeah she was my best friend for 15 years. I was in the house for 5 days after she left me and I did not touch a thing. If I could let anyone know never think it will be all right. Expect the unexpected and then times that by a thousand...holy moses that is just not cool....
P.S. I was never unfaithful or did her wrong in anyway other than a yelling match about once every two years,,usaully finaces were the source. I allowed her to stay at home to raise our kids as thats what she wanted to do. I always supported her in every way.
Sorry again it just makes me sick.
Bruce
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adragon8u
Gearhead Posts: 4942
From: Oceano, Ca. member# 2895
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted 04-11-2005 11:25 PM
Sorry to hear the bad news Bruce.
Life has a way of kicking you in the nads just when you have a leg up.
Hope life gets kinder to you soon.------------------
"It's better to have loved a short girl,
Then never to have loved a tall"
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exlocal
Gearhead Posts: 230
From: hacienda hts., CA, USA
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted 04-11-2005 11:40 PM
I was married for 16 years when she divorced me. It was an ugly battle for a few years, but as the divorce became finalized, she had regrets, but I knew I had to go on and raise our son (I had primary custody). It seems like the world is crashing around you initially, but life goes on and be strong for the kids. You'll be okay, been there too.------------------
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
From: Spokane ,WA USA
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posted 04-11-2005 11:57 PM
Thanks guys all your inputs really help cause sometimes you feel like crap and it helps to know it does get better but how do let go of your best friend..
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hwyman3
Gearhead Posts: 527
From: Southern Maryland, USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted 04-12-2005 12:17 AM
Bruce, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. Mine was not pretty either after 7 years of marriage. She was the one who moved out, so I got to clean out the house. We agreed early on to be fair, but her idea of fair was she take the assets and I take the liabilities. I had to threaten to let the house go to forclosure to get her to agree to an equitible agreement. I wish you the best. It was during my divorce that I bought the Mustang I have now. If you feel that you need to talk to someone who's been down that road, let me know. ------------------
Greg W.
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stc65coupe351w
Gearhead Posts: 329
From: Riverside California
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted 04-12-2005 01:15 AM
Sorry to hear about your problem and turn of events. I have been married 24 years ( my first) and Trish has already made it clear that she is taking the Mustang and all the tools. She said I can have the blender if I wish. Not that it is going to happen any time soon. We have also worked side by side in construction for the last 19 years without problems. She even enjoys working on cars, go figure? Hope things look up soon and things work out for you.------------------
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Fastymz
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posted 04-12-2005 02:49 AM
Sorry Bruce, hang there things will get better.------------------
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Dave Gibson
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From: Norfolk, Virginia, USA M&M#166 MCA#47921
Registered: Aug 99
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posted 04-12-2005 03:25 AM
Bruce,
Hang in there buddy. It will only get better for you. I have two divorces under my belt. But then I met Terri. Wow. What a change and for the best.  Going on seven years now and six different mustangs that we both enjoy working on and cruisin in.  Dave & Terri ------------------
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Big D
Gearhead Posts: 5172
From: WELLS, NEVADA USA
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posted 04-12-2005 06:01 AM
Bruce..It's okay to vent.. Better than keeping all bundled up.. Been going through the same thing.. Trust me if she's that mean,, she's only going to get MEANER.. Try living in a town of only 1,000 people.. Move out,, and the only place you can find to live in is ON THE SAME STREET..  We had our kids raised and life could have been nice and simple.. Starting over sure complicates life,, but I couldn't live with the stranger in the house - I get to make payments on.. Ours really became "It's Hard To Kiss The Lips At Night - That Crews Your Ass Out All Day Long" Syndrom.. At least she didn't take my sense of humor..  ------------------
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SteveLaRiviere
Administrator Posts: 43294
From: Saco, Maine
Registered: May 99
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posted 04-12-2005 07:57 AM
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Originally posted by N266fords:
Thanks guys all your inputs really help cause sometimes you feel like crap and it helps to know it does get better but how do let go of your best friend..
I've been there too, and it does get better. Much better. Living a life with someone that appreciates you is a hell of a lot better than merely existing with a person that barely tolerates you. Losing your best friend is hard, but a best friend would never rape you of all your possessions, right? Better days are ahead, guaranteed! ------------------
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68 S-code GT
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From: Sayreville, NJ, US
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posted 04-12-2005 09:02 AM
That?s too bad but think of the good things to come in the future. Look at it as a chance for a new beginning. I?ve never been divorced but I?ve seen some nasty ones and only one good one.------------------
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
From: Spokane ,WA USA
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted 04-12-2005 03:29 PM
well its not over yet Damm
she is still causing problems..More lie (to be expected I guess)well to more months of life on hold for this crap to be over with. Its not bad enough she sold everything but now she has to drag it out even longer. Oh well I just keep positive and know that the lord has his own plans, I just wish I knew what they where, lol.
I am really sad but hey I will always have my kids. and she cant take my knowledge or personality of life experiences away from me. so thats one in my favor.lol.
Someone said he had only seen one good divorce there is no good divorce only ones that are complicated with B.S.
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johnmustang
Gearhead Posts: 5865
From: British Columbia , Canada
Registered: Nov 2001
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posted 04-12-2005 05:21 PM
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Originally posted by N266fords:
she cant take my knowledge or personality of life experiences away from me. so thats one in my favor
When all is said and done, and the divorce is final, tell her that you have naked pictures of her and you can look at them any time you want to  . When she yells at you to give them to her, just tell her that they are in your memory and that is the one thing that she can never take away from you. Then just close your eyes and smile . (saw this on an episode of friends) ------------------
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SteveLaRiviere
Administrator Posts: 43294
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posted 04-12-2005 05:44 PM
Living well is the best revenge.Travel to all the places you wanted to go, buy yourself a new car, get a 20 year old girlfriend, and build a bachelor pad on the lake. Then make sure she 'accidently' finds out about it. ------------------
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
From: Spokane ,WA USA
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posted 04-12-2005 06:18 PM
lol, you guys are killing me.. thats was so funny.
Thanks for The laughs,
Bruce Williams
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SteveLaRiviere
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posted 04-12-2005 06:25 PM
It'll all be better, buddy. Just give it time. ------------------
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'70 Mustang Convertible 250 I6/3 speed/2.79 Open
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Moneymaker
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posted 04-12-2005 06:55 PM
Just when I was thinking about.........------------------
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 1433
From: Spokane ,WA USA
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posted 04-12-2005 08:24 PM
lol
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TrishOfStc
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From: Riverside, Ca
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted 04-12-2005 09:10 PM
Sorry about your wife Bruce.
It was really rotten what she did, but we are not all like that. I was a great ex-wife and gave him everything except the kids. I would have been willing to share them but he was a lousy dad and the judge stripped him of his parental rights at the request of our kids. But he did get everything else including our house. So in defense of some ex's, were not all bad. And those of us that aren't, don't think much of the women that do what your wife did. It's a shame that you don't live in Ca. If you did and could prove the value of your things and prove that you had them, the judge would probably deduct at least half of the amount from her portion of the assets. It's pretty much a 50/50 judgment state.Good luck and protect the rest of your things, especially your kids. Trish ------------------
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exlocal
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posted 04-12-2005 11:42 PM
I used to take my son to my ex's place every other weekend for visitation. She used to ask my son if I was seeing anyone else. My son told her that he didn't know and even if I was, it's my business, not hers. After the divorce, we sold the house and split up, my son mentioned that I was smiling more, and he was right, MOST of the pressure was now off and I could start to enjoy life again.------------------
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hwyman3
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posted 04-13-2005 12:23 AM
Everyone is right on here, Bruce. As I said, I bought my Mustang during my divorce and I now have a wonderful girlfriend. Granted, while it was going on, it was one of the hardest years of my life, but it does get better. When I finally got the paper from the court saying I was divorced, it was one of the happiest days of my life. I tend to look at it this way, if I had never gotten divorced, I would not have bought the Mustang and I wouldn't have found this board and the fine folks here. You are right, God does have a plan in everything. They aren't always clear at the time, but they do tend to work out. ------------------
Greg W.
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2002 Laser Red GT Coupe
1991 F-150 XLT 4x2 5.0
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N266fords
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posted 04-13-2005 12:32 AM
Thrisofstc I am going for the sum of my things don't mean i will get it but hey you have to try..I wish i could tell you about the case but I cannot as it is still pending if you know what I mean. the kids want to be with me.but they are 3 and 7 so not old enough to make that statement on there own. I dont dicuss the case with them I just explained that mom and dad are no longer living in the same house but we will always love them the same and none of this is their fault we just have to be in different homes. She however tells them everything and then lies to them, ouch, Never Ever tell your kids anthing negative about the other person or they will go up hating you. It always backfires, and its never cool to put extra stress on the kids as they are already blaming themselfs in a divorce... If more parents would educate themselves better, the world would be that much nicer to live in..
Bruce
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Fastback68
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posted 04-13-2005 12:43 AM
TOTAL EDIT
I think what I wrote here was a bit unfeeling. It ran along the lines of I've never been able to understand why folks get married in the first place. But since that type of comment really does no good here, I wish you all the best![This message has been edited by Fastback68 (edited 04-13-2005).]
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stc65coupe351w
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posted 04-13-2005 01:31 AM
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Originally posted by N266fords:
the kids want to be with me.but they are 3 and 7 so not old enough to make that statement on there own. I dont dicuss the case with them I just explained that mom and dad are no longer living in the same house but we will always love them the same and none of this is their fault we just have to be in different homes. She however tells them everything and then lies to them, ouch, Never Ever tell your kids anthing negative about the other person or they will go up hating you. It always backfires, and its never cool to put extra stress on the kids as they are already blaming themselfs in a divorce... If more parents would educate themselves better, the world would be that much nicer to live in..
Bruce
So True. When Trish and I got together she had a 18 month and 4 year old. Her ex and his girlfriend/ now wife did everything under the sun, lies and such. We were supportive and dealt with it and never talked about her ex. He got so violent that when the older one was 14 he asked to take the dad to court to get him to stop talking bad about me and Trish. When the older one was 18 he actually thought I liked his dad ( farthest thing from the truth, he just did not know) and the 18 month old thinks I am her dad and will not even talk to him or have anything to do with him and she is now 25 with 2 kids and the older is 30 with 3 kids with he has minimum contact. It is the hardest thing to allow the ex to run in bad directions but your right about the long run and as the years go by it does pay off and the later years will be much better. The kids always and must come first and they will figure it out themselves. Just remember ice works well when you spend so much time biting your tongue.------------------
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lyle29464
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posted 04-13-2005 01:41 AM
Remember the golden rule of divorce " The non-custodial parent must be shot. OK Ok just trying to add a bit of humor. Lyle
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TrishOfStc
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posted 04-13-2005 01:55 AM
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Originally posted by N266fords:
Never Ever tell your kids anthing negative about the other person or they will go up hating you. It always backfires,
Bruce
Good for you Bruce. It is nice to hear that at least one of you is thinking about the welfare of your kids. It is awful when one parent can't see what they are doing in bad for their kids. Parents are the only people that children love completely without conditions, when one of these parents attacks the other, the ones being hurt are the children. I know that your wife thinks she is hurting you through the kids, and she is indirectly by you having to witness the extra pain and stress she is putting on them. But she is really only hurting the kids, and in time they will act out and strike back at her. I can't think of anyone that likes mean and hateful people, and it sounds like that is how she is acting towards you. You may try this route, when I had to discuss with my ex what he was saying to the kids, before the judge stepped in. I would tell him that he was only hurting the kids because I didn't care what he thought of me or said about me because I thought he was an a## hole and I didn't want to be liked by an a## hole, so his opinion of me suit me just fine. I know things differ from state to state, but in Ca, one parent or a representative of the parent is not allowed to speak badly of the other parent to the kids. My nephews ex was doing this to the point where she and her sister would say things about taking my nephew out on the boat and throwing him in the water so he would go away forever. He spoke to the judge and his ex was told that it was not allowed and if she continued not only would she lose her joint custody, but she would only be allowed supervised visits. Divorce is hard enough on kids. I will never understand why some parents have to make it so much harder and painful for them. But don't worry, in the end I am sure that she will come to you for help when she can't control the kids because they are acting up and she just won't be able to understand why. Sorry to ramble, guess it's easy to see that I am a crusader for happy and protected children. I guess you could say that stuff like this just burns my bu##. Best of luck to you, and I will pray that your wife grows up soon for the sake of your kids. Trish ------------------
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mustangmel46
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posted 04-13-2005 08:20 AM
I know it's rough, but hang in there. I helped my ex raise his 3 girls and took care of his dying mother, after everything was done and we were alone for the first time in 19 years he decided he wanted out. I had to start all over, renting an apartment, no furniture and payments on my stang. The good thing that has come out of it is that I now have some really good friends and have met some interesting men, some of which I'm still friends with, I know going back to dating is hell, but if you go into it with a great atitude it can be fun. So like I said hang in there it does get better.Melody
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N266fords
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posted 04-13-2005 12:31 PM
thank mel and everyone else sometimes you feel like the whole world hates you and you forget their are nice people out their. I hope it gets better soon.
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kwazykat
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posted 04-13-2005 01:18 PM
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Originally posted by N266fords:
.... I hope it gets better soon.
oh....it WILL!! and always remember what goes around comes around.... regarding the ex..... mean nasty people eventually earn what they deserve .... a menial little existance dependant on everyone else to give them everything .... an existance no one would be proud of ..... but they fool themselves into thinking they are "someone"..... divorce is stressful to everyone..... a difficult divorce will wear out ones emotions and self-esteem..... ....when you are emotionally fit and ready to put yourself in the middle of a social schedule again.... i have compleat faith you will learn how to enjoy living alone! chin up man! this is an exciting new start for you!!!
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SteveLaRiviere
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posted 04-13-2005 05:20 PM
It's easy to lose perspective when you go through things like this. When I got divorced I thought it was the worst thing I could ever go through and it took me a while to recover.But later on in life, I went through the passing away of first my father and then my mother. Looking back over all of it, on the pain scale, comparing my divorce to losing my parents is like comparing a mosquito bite to an amputation. ------------------
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stang68
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posted 04-13-2005 08:43 PM
IT will get better for you as times goes by ..you will see ..but i do know the ex s are ruthless unpredictable and think you owe them something ...lol hell i had a cb base station one took said she needed a clock..
but know there are better days are ahead thats for sure...good luck and enjoy life now..[This message has been edited by stang68 (edited 04-13-2005).]
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posted 04-17-2005 09:18 PM
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Originally posted by SteveLaRiviere:
Living well is the best revenge.Travel to all the places you wanted to go, buy yourself a new car, get a 20 year old girlfriend, and build a bachelor pad on the lake. Then make sure she 'accidently' finds out about it.
LMBO....
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