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Topic: Do I kick his a$$?
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Kellxr7
Journeyman Posts: 85
From: Medstead SK Canada
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted 06-05-2003 08:44 PM
   
Im confused, I was raised on a farm in SK & I was a bit of a bad ass (yeah I sort of grew up now ,Im 21) & got kicked off my farm, I moved to a city & worked there for a while & a year later moved to a small town 1/2 hour away, I had alot of good loyal friends there & Then this November I got the opportunity to work in Toronto , a biggg switch in lifestyle. Well, I found me a girlfriend here & weve been going out for over 4 months & I really like her, One problem, She has this X that used to treat her like **** (including physical abuse,something I have a biggggg problem with) Well Apparently her group of friends & her knew this guy Since grade school & She (obviously) doesnt want him hanging around the group any more & he usually doesnt because the only reason he ever did was to try to prove to her that he was the "better one" & once he made her look bad then hed ditch the group for 5 months or so. Well, the other night we were @ the pool hall & part of her group of friends wanted to bring this ******* there & I told them NO I dont want my girfriend to ever have to see him again, Now Im apparently an ******* according to her friends ,Im seperating the group, Man I think that is a strange group of "friends" if they were my friends we would have kicked this guys ass & he would know to never show his woman beating face again, Maybe big city ppl think differently than smalltown boys like me. My question is what would make me the bigger (wiser) man, to kick is ass & tell him to stay away?(@ the risk of getting lynched the next week (hes got alot of followers I hear) Or just let him show up & ignor him & if he does pull something ,THEN kick his ass? The thing is that ,I know being my girlfriends friends (guy friends) are cowards they would probably stand up for the ******* being theyre scared of him & knew him longer than they knew me. HMmmmm (city folk confuse me because where I come from guys who treat girls like **** get taken out behind the barn & well you know) Sorry for the long "chickish " post Maybe Ill just run him over with my Cougar. Any help?
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Kellxr7
Journeyman Posts: 85
From: Medstead SK Canada
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted 06-05-2003 08:49 PM
(Sorry I didnt mean to single out "big city" ppl like that. I know I dont like it when these Toronto ppl stereotype smalltowners) I just noticed it looked kind of bad. 
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GTRocks
Gearhead Posts: 2288
From: Lusby, MD, USA
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 06-05-2003 09:15 PM
What's your girlfriend think you should do? That's all that really matters. If you run him off and show him up and she thinks you're a heel for doing so, it's all for naught. If she wants you to run him off, then you'll both be looking for a new group of friends, or so it would seem. Maybe that's not all bad...
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n2oMike
Gearhead Posts: 1467
From: Spencer, WV
Registered: Jan 2001
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posted 06-05-2003 09:17 PM
You've only been told one side of the story. There's probably more to it than what you've heard. The friends know the guy better than you do.It's not your business. Just lay low, and the guy will eventually go away. Being a 'cowboy' and threatening to 'kick his a**' if he ever comes around will only make the others resent you... and you be the one doing the walking. Leave it alone. Don't ask too many questons, and he'll eventually be gone and you'll be with the 'in' crowd. Good Luck! ------------------
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johnmustang
Gearhead Posts: 4088
From: Vancouver Island , British Columbia , Canada
Registered: Nov 2001
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posted 06-05-2003 09:18 PM
Just leave it alone, if and when you guys meet or he does something to your girl friend then call the police. Believe me when I say I have been there and done that. Ended up in a pile of trouble and the girl friend has been long long gone, but the repercussions of that night still follow me to this day. It also sounds like your so called friends are not your friends at all. If it was me I would move on at least from these so called friends, if you get into a hassle with the guy and " kick his a$$ " you will be buying alot more trouble than you can handle.JOHN  ------------------
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capri man
Gearhead Posts: 3132
From: doerun, ga.
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted 06-05-2003 09:38 PM
i think i would just leave the group. then you would find out if your girlfriend wants you or if she wants to stay back close to her old boyfriend. depending on whether she gos with you or stays back with the crowd. i am 55 years old and can tell you for a fact that a woman that gets out of an abusive relationship will 99% of the time get back into one just as bad or worse the next time. i dont have a clue why, all i know is that it is the truth!------------------
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Moneymaker
Administrator Posts: 19610
From: Lyons, IL, USA
Registered: May 99
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posted 06-05-2003 11:41 PM
Walk away!
As Mike said, you only heard one side of the story.
My years of experiance has taught me that there tends to be some exaggeration when couple become estranged.
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N266fords
Gearhead Posts: 371
From: Spokane ,WA USA
Registered: Apr 2003
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posted 06-06-2003 01:40 AM
Everyone is correct on walking away..If you kick his ass you will end-up in jail and she will go back with him more likly than not..besides if he beats up the ladies than he himself is a punk and a coward so he wont fight you he will have you thrown in jail..Bruce
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Big D
Gearhead Posts: 3516
From: WELLS, NEVADA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted 06-06-2003 10:17 AM
Yep,, Walk away,, but keep her phone number just in case.. Don
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lawless
Gearhead Posts: 269
From: Richmond, VA
Registered: Aug 2000
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posted 06-06-2003 10:45 AM
dude..... you gotta walk away on this one...The "ex" is her problem, not yours. If she chooses to keep this abusive guy in her life for what ever reason, its her decision. She needs to be the one to stand up for herself to this guy and her friends if she really doesn't want him around. Now... where does that leave you? That's what your girlfriend and yourself are going to have to work out. There is probably going to have to be some level of compromise from both parties to find a solution. This solution may not be the best scenario for each of you as individuals, but will work in the long term of being a couple. Just don't kick the guy's a**!!! It will do nothing to help the relationship. but if the guy does mysteriously show up in your hometown in the country...  chris
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itlbrnmoff
Gearhead Posts: 670
From: Indianapolis,IN.USA
Registered: Nov 2002
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posted 06-07-2003 08:25 AM
I say...find a new grrl too.
If all that matters is the approval of friends no matter what you think, it's time to hit the bricks.
If not, you might end up in a long term situation that was a real waste of time. 
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Kellxr7
Journeyman Posts: 85
From: Medstead SK Canada
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted 06-07-2003 02:18 PM
Thanks guys Ive given it alot of thought & so has she, She talked to her friends & told them what I said about not being very good friends if they want to have a guy in their group that Treat their best friend like garbage, & I think they did alot of thinking because his name hasnt even come up since last week & they have being showing alot more respect to us, I guess when I typed the first post I was really POd thats why I wanted only to beat him up, I guess that never really solves alot anyway, but so far things are getting better, & I know some of you told me I should leave the girl but she means so much to me ,more than any other girl I have ever been with, she just had it stuck in her head that woman abusing wasnt all that wrong because of the way she was raised & treated by her father & X boyfriends, now she sees my point & doensnt want to hear of her X again. Thanks for all the input I just needed some 2nd 3rd & 4th opinions & You guys really helped, now that this problem is hopefully over with... Back to Windsor Strokers!!
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capri man
Gearhead Posts: 3132
From: doerun, ga.
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted 06-07-2003 02:21 PM
great kell, you sound like a very mature young man. with that attitude you should go a long way in life. now where is my list of engine questions??? LOL------------------
mike r
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SUBMARINER MUSTANGER
Gearhead Posts: 595
From: Grandview, Missouri
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 06-07-2003 09:25 PM
I want to add the fact that getting in trouble with the law could only be a small consequence. What if this guy ISN'T such a punk afterall and ends up kicking your ass instead, possibly injuring you severely or even killing you, (maybe he's got a gun under the seat of his car....you just don't know). Then where would you be, and all of that over a girl and her friends. Glad I'm past those "gotta be a tough guy" days.------------------
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SteveLaRiviere
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From: Saco, Maine
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posted 06-08-2003 05:57 PM
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brockjoe
Gearhead Posts: 958
From: Sioux City, Iowa
Registered: Oct 99
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posted 06-18-2003 09:02 PM
my thing would be let him show up wait till he does somthing that give you the reason or excuse, cus you know he will (they always do), then kick his A$$ MAN STYLE no 2 ways about it. been in a simaler situation this is how i did it, this way he looks like the bad guy, and hey he hits women to fell like a big man he needs to be shown what it fells like to be a victim. sorry all i hate this kind of "man" .------------------
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