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Topic: Women and Diet Pills
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SUBMARINER MUSTANGER
Gearhead Posts: 512
From: Grandview, Missouri
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 06-01-2002 10:57 PM
   
I'm hoping some of the female members can help me understand before I "go off" on my wife. I was looking in the cabinet for some pain relievers for a headache (I NEVER have headaches, or go through that cabinet) and I find 3 different kinds of diet pills. I find Metabolife, Dexatrim, and some other kind of "natural" thingy. Anyway, the thing that pisses me off is that I think Debbie looks GREAT at 5'5 and 135 pounds. Okay, so she has some celulite on the thighs and hips (2 kids and life). I've got my fair share of "spare tireitis" on my 35 year old frame. What makes me mad is the fact that she just had and echocardiogram done for a heart murmour that her doctor detected during her physical last month. Thankfully, it came out normal, but she did the Phen fin thing back in the mid to late 90's, and she was concerned about that. Well, now that she's been "sort of" cleared of that, here she is taking pills again. Granted, these aren't prescription, but who knows what all of these over the counter, herbal things can do to you. I'm just mad because this isn't the first time I've found this stuff around the house, but I don't want to sound like a butthead and confront her with it in a negative way. I'm genuinely concerned with her, and am pleased with her appearance. I'm thinking that I should compliment her more, that way she doesn't think that she needs to lose weight "for me". Sorry for using M&M for a sounding board, but I know we've got quite a few 30 something and above women here who've probably experienced similiar things. I'm just a hubby who wants to do the right thing, and not sound like a jerk!! ------------------
Sub Stanger/1990 LX 5.0 Vert
2001 Ford Ranger (4 Door Extended Cab)
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Buster
Journeyman Posts: 70
From: Orlando
Registered: May 2002
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posted 06-01-2002 11:07 PM
what is Phen fin?
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kwazykat
Moderator Posts: 5425
From: ...a wonderful place to be.... orange county... NC!!!! M&M member #92 .... a blue-oval GRRL-deluxe.....
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 06-02-2002 06:36 PM
hmmmmmmmmm......it never hurts.... ever ever hurts to say it outloud when you think something nice about someone..... i wouldnt make this a confrontational issue...
but certainly it seems a perfect time to step up the communication with her about how you feel about her.... and maybe doing some new things together that are good for both of you is a great way to show support to her wanting to be more active.... both of you will benefit in lots of ways.... for example.... offer to start walking together in the evenings after suppertime.....it is a wonderful way to attack the "lets do something together that is healthy" topic without it being a huge issue..... something casual... brisk walks are awesome and easy .... its sorta simplistic but sometimes simple answers are the best.... then if the "getting fit together" idea grows you can take it as it comes instead of diving in right away to an investment at a gym or whatever..... she is evidently lacking in self-image if she looks good to you but still feels like she need to be something different..... being healthy has nothing to do with being skinny ... anyone with a grain of common sense knows that part.... just sometimes a person needs to be reminded that being healthy is the important part.... the rest of it (aesthetics) will follow as an added benefit ..... go touch her
tell her how beautiful she is
and get active.... 
kk
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SteveLaRiviere
Administrator Posts: 23053
From: Saco, Maine USA
Registered: May 99
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posted 06-02-2002 06:51 PM
Don't 'confront,' instead 'converse.'  ------------------
'70 Mustang Mach 1 ~ '72 Mustang Sprint ~ '94 F-150
MCA Member # 47773 "Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd."
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SUBMARINER MUSTANGER
Gearhead Posts: 512
From: Grandview, Missouri
Registered: Jun 99
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posted 06-02-2002 10:22 PM
Thanks guys, great advice which will be taken!------------------
Sub Stanger/1990 LX 5.0 Vert
2001 Ford Ranger (4 Door Extended Cab)
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Ked
Moderator Posts: 7076
From: Hot Hills o' Sand, N.C.
Registered: Jul 99
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posted 06-03-2002 02:12 PM
Craig, Sounds like you have a very fortunate wife to have a husband who is happy with her appearance!! I don't really have any advice on the diet pill thing...sounds like KK pretty much covered it. Just wanted to add my $.02 worth~ Unfortunately in our society the white man has pretty much so set the standard for "beauty and fitness" for years. And, yes, I did say white man! Why else until recently did most actresses/models have blonde hair, blue eyes, big boobs and tiny butts???? ummmmm~ anyhow, I'm sure you have told your wife just how beautiful she is to you and you make her feel like the goddess that she is! Just remember, our American society has instilled into all women of ALL ages (and even young boys) the so called "ideal" of beauty. Hopefully, that ideal is changing! What ever you do NEVER, EVER, EVER tell her she needs improvement anywhere on her body, suggest a boob job or that you wished she looked like she did when she was twenty-something (or before kids)..... I'm sure you would never say anything like that. But, believe me, there are some husbands who would and have.
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70 Pony
Gearhead Posts: 1437
From: Glenmoore, PA, USA
Registered: Jan 2000
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posted 06-03-2002 04:45 PM
CRAIG...I'M LATE...but dieting is a national obsession here...we have it so good, we all carry a few extra pounds...then look in the mirror and say..."Uh Oh"!!!
I agree with the others.....I used to compliment my wife every day (and mean it)..always told her she was the prettiest girl at the party, or she was sexier at 50 than at 22.....and again meant it....
COMMUNICATION as opposed to confrontation and expressing to her that HEALTH is the most important part of her future with you and 2 kids.....
Bring it up in a round about way, without telling her of your discovery......
Good Luck........------------------
EDDIE D
Resto Mod '70 Sport Roof
Arrest Me Red
'02 GT, Torch Red
"If I knew I would have lived this long, I would have taken better care of myself !"
"U.S. Marines; First to go. Last to know !"
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69 Sportsroof
Journeyman Posts: 64
From: Valley, Alabama, USA
Registered: Mar 2002
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posted 06-03-2002 04:50 PM
Do your wife a favor and get rid of the Metabolife. It's not good for you at all. And like everyone else has said. Talking about it is the key. Good luck.http://www.elslaw.com/ephedra.htm
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